After 11 years in the same two bedroom apartment, we have decided to move. Why?
Outgrew the Space–In 7 years, we have had three kids, and we have outgrown the space. We are on the top floor, and there is very little insulation or sound-proofing between the floors. The last woman who was in the apartment below us called to complain almost every morning because our kids get up early—5 a.m., and yes, they aren’t that quiet, though we try to keep them quiet in the morning and put carpet over the wood floor to try to muffle the sound of their toys.
Apartment Is in Disrepair–The apartment has always been a bit run down with rotting wood windows and a wood door outside that is very easy to break into. In fact, the apartment building has been broken into twice; luckily we have never been affected, but the other two apartments in the building did have intruders. In recent years, the landlords have put as many maintenance issues and repairs on hold as possible. While I understand they struggled with unemployment, that hasn’t been an issue in the last 18 months. One could argue that they are still getting on their feet, but recently, when the landlord does show up, he is in a sporty vintage convertible.
New Neighbor Troubles—The middle apartment had been vacant for four months. Just three weeks ago a couple in their late fifties moved in. Their children and grandchildren are over every day; we even wonder if they might live there. The woman in her fifties, who is the grandmother, seems unable to talk to her grandchild without screaming at him. We hear her scream and then the toddler break down in tears. Rinse and repeat several times an hour. It seems almost anything she says is done in a scream. This past Saturday they kept us awake until 2:30 a.m. with the screaming, crying, and clunking around.
I went downstairs to commiserate with the man who lives in the garden apartment. These new tenants are so noisy, he is going to move too. In fact, one night he was in bed and screamed, “Control yourself! People need to sleep! Have some respect!!” They quieted immediately, but it only lasted 5 minutes. I spoke with the landlord today, and she said she did talk to the woman about the noise, but the woman just screamed at her too.
Our New Apartment
While we seriously debated between two apartments, we decided to go with the first apartment we looked at. It is 1,500 square feet, which is 500 square feet more than we have now. Plus, the landlord was willing to negotiate. The apartment was advertised for $1350, utilities not included. We couldn’t swing that, so after a few weeks, he came back to us and offered to pay all utilities if we pay $1,390 in rent a month, which I thought was a fantastic offer. We signed a 2.5 year lease because that is how long my husband’s post doc will last.
I admit the cost of the apartment is a bit intimidating, but I ran the numbers, and we can afford to pay that much. I do worry that it will affect our gazelle intensity, but I based our budget on the minimum amount of guaranteed money I will make a month and my husband’s current salary, not the raise he will get with his post doc. We will just have to be very vigilant about tracking where we spend our money, but I do believe we are still on track to pay off the credit card debt in 12 months.
After all that has happened and the new neighbors who just moved in, I think we are moving at the right time. Thank you to all of my fabulous readers who offered advice. I appreciate it, and you helped lead us to the right decision. 🙂

So happy to hear y’all are moving. I know it is a big change but for the better I am sure
Yea!! May you have many peaceful nights…and days… That new neighbor sounds horrible…and I might be thinking of calling the division of family services on her…
You’ve been writing about the problems with the apartment for so long, that I figured a move would be forthcoming soon. It’s too bad that things couldn’t work out. I feel bad for the little kid that is constantly getting hollered at. Your moving away will help you not hear it, but he’s going to have to keep living with it regardless. Hopefully something changes for the better in his life.
Yes, it is really terrible. I thought it was the mother screaming; I was surprised to find out it is the grandmother.
It sounds like your new apartment will be great. Good luck with the move!
Sounds to me like you have good justification for moving and that it is a wise choice. I hope it works out well for you.
Congratulations!!! With the gazelle intensity you guys have, I don’t think you’ll have any problem paying off your credit card, even with a rent increase. I’m so excited for you!
I am excited too! I can’t wait to get moved in.
Best wishes with the move. I hope it works out well for you.
Great to hear about the move. I think you’ve lasted longer than I would have given all the issues. The move will probably give you a fresh view and in turn give you more writing inspiration. Win/Win
Yes, I am hoping that is the case. At any rate, it should be much less stressful. 🙂
Renting is becoming more expensive even though the housing market is declining. But, it does seem like you got a great deal. I bet the landlord likes you a lot for signing 2.5 year lease. Good luck in your new apartment.
What a relief it must be to know that you are moving! I am so happy for you and your family. I know that this was a decision that you did not take lightly and at least you know that you don’t have to think about it again for the next 2.5 years!
Thank goodness… I have been so worried about your safety and mental well-being if you stayed put too much longer. You made a good choice! I love seeing homes… if it isn’t too invasive of your privacy I hope you will post some pics of the new place!
I was thinking of doing just that! 🙂
I am so happy for you! I don’t think this will affect your intensity negatively at all. I wouldn’t be surprised if this puts you in a better mood and you get more accomplished 🙂
Many blessings for you and your family in your new home. Praying that the move runs smooth for you all.