My brother, Jeff, was 7 years younger than me. He had cerebral palsy and was wheel chair bound, could talk very little, and could no longer eat but had a feeding tube after he was 12. But he had a beautiful spirit and an upbeat personality. For sure, taking care of him took a lot of time, but my mom also made sure to take time for herself, whether it was calling a friend, going to a social event, or taking advantage of a respite weekend.
I think it’s time for me to learn from my mother’s example.
My child with high functioning autism can be, and often is, very demanding. This child was diagnosed 1.5 years ago, but we’ve struggled with difficult behavior for the last two years. I have poured myself into this child thinking things would improve, but improvement is so.very.slow that sometimes it feels like there is no improvement at all. This week I’ve reached my breaking point and realize that I can’t indefinitely keep pouring into this child while neglecting myself. It’s like driving without stopping at the gas station because you want to get to your destination faster, but then you run out of gas, and you can’t go anywhere.
I’m out of energy, and I must make it a priority to take care of myself so I can better take care of this child in the long run. I tried to do better with my goals this week, and I know that I’m going to have to keep setting boundaries and taking the time to make my life my own again. I am more than a mom to a child who has autism.
In addition, for this week, I’m going to add one goal–start listing homeschool curriculum to sell. I’d like to sell $100 worth of curriculum this week, but, of course, that depends if there are any buyers. 🙂
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Make Time to Relax
Read a book a week. I start reading Reading with Patrick by Michelle Kuo on Monday, but it was much slower than I thought it would be, so mid-week I put it aside and started reading The Kremlin Conspiracy, which is so far NOT slow.
Write. I wrote in my journal twice this week.
Care for Myself
Exercise. I took three 10 minute walk this week.
Manage my sugar cravings. I did not lose any weight this week. In fact, I gained back a bit of the 3 pounds that I lost last week. (It was a stressful week!)
Create a Manageable Schedule for Myself
The chore chart is working great for the kids, but I’m still trying to tweak my own schedule, as you can see.
Re-establish My Prayer Routine
This week was not so good. I only said my morning prayers about half of the mornings this week because we got up late a few mornings.
Make $25 a Month on Swagbucks
I started at 214 Swagbucks back at the end of January, and now I’m at 2,046. So close to my first $25 Amazon gift card for 2018. Honestly, I forgot about Swagbucks last week, so this week I’m going to push to get 2,200 Swagbucks so I can finally get the gift card!
These are my initial goals for 2018. How are you doing on your goals? I’d love it if you’d share in the comments!