Once we decided we were going to homeschool our kids, I started doing research. Early on, several sources mentioned that homeschooling is easier if you know your children’s love language as well as their learning style.
The 5 Love Languages of Children helps parents understand how important it is to learn their child’s primary love language. For instance, if your child’s primary love language is quality time, you’ll fill up his “love tank” as the authors say, by spending time with him. Once a child’s love tank is filled, that child will likely behave better and care more when he misbehaves and is disciplined.
Conversely, if you discipline a child who’s love language is quality time by ignoring that child for a set amount of time, you could do serious damage to your relationship with the child.
This book explains the love languages and how to determine your child’s love language no matter their age. It also explains how you can connect with your child by recognizing and utilizing their love language. Knowing their love language can also help you discipline your child more effectively.
I’m so glad I found this book! Peanut Butter and Jelly Girl is only 4.5 years old, but in the last few months, she has greeted me almost every morning with a picture she’s drawn of me and my favorite cat, Sunshine. She also goes to our pantry and pulls out the candy the kids can’t eat because it has food dye or ingredients they can’t have and gives a piece to my husband almost daily.
After I started reading this book, I had a good inkling that her love language was giving gifts. The authors recommend one way to help discover what a child’s love language is is to ask how parents show love for their children. She immediately answered, “By giving them presents?” She then followed it with, “By giving them hugs and kisses.”
If you’re not familiar with the love language concept, you’ll likely learn quite a bit from reading this book. The stretch for me is learning to show love in the language that isn’t important for me. I don’t really care about gifts, but I have to find some way to show Peanut Butter and Jelly Girl that I love her through gifts. (It doesn’t have to be something that you buy; it can just be a simple token of love.)
This book will not only help me get closer to my kids, but hopefully help me be a better homeschooling mom.
I shared this post at Bookin’ It.