Goals for 2018: Week 32 of 52

You may have noticed I’ve skipped my goals post for the last five weeks or so.  I’m not going to lie, the last few weeks have been ROUGH.

I’ve stopped doing anything on my goal list.

Nothing.

Nada.

Zilch.

But then, last night when my husband and I were watching Criminal Minds on Netflix, I heard this quote:

Tomorrow you promise yourself, things will be different, yet tomorrow is too often a repetition of today, and you disappoint yourself again and again.” – James T. McCay

Ouch.  It was like Dr. Reid was speaking directly to me.

You know, I’m not going to sugar coat it.  This year has been hard.  We found out not one but two of our kids have autism, and while some kids with autism don’t have meltdowns, ours do.  I don’t want to go into too much detail because while this is part of my story, it’s not MY story alone; it’s also my kids’ story, and I want to respect their privacy.

However, it’s a well known fact that when you start ABA therapy, behaviors get worse before they get better, and we’re smack in the middle of the “get worse” phase.  Since only one child has started ABA therapy, we’ll have to repeat this process again when the other child starts ABA.

But we’re doing it because we hope to reach our children and help them with their struggles in ways that we can’t help them now.

So, LIFE has brought me down to my knees, but that doesn’t mean I have to collapse.  I’m stronger than that.

I’m going to work on reestablishing my goals, even in the midst of this epic struggle.

My only goal for this week is to eat when I’m hungry and stop when I’m full.  That’s it.

I’m not going to count calories or try to limit my sweets or feel guilty about what I eat.  I’m simply going to do what God intended we humans do–eat when I’m hungry and stop when I’m full.

How do you take care of yourself when LIFE brings you to your knees?  I’d love suggestions.  (And yes, while most of my goals have gone out the window, I’m still praying, alot!)

 

Goals for 2018: Week 27 of 52

This week was crazy busy thanks to arranging respite care for my child with autism and having a 3 hour(!) ABA intake as well as attending the final appointment with the psychiatrist to diagnosis my other child, who did indeed get a diagnosis of autism.   Funny that I always had what I thought were quirky kids, and now I know I actually have two with high functioning autism.

As devastating as that can feel sometimes, I’m glad that they’re both diagnosed and that I can start the process of ABA for both of them.  I know many children with autism have had great success with ABA; I hope that’s true for my kids as well.

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Make Time to Relax

Read a book a week.   I currently have four books that I’m reading–A Casualty of War, Smart but Scattered, No Longer Little, and The Librarian of Auschwitz, though I’m mainly focusing on A Casualty of War.  The book started out very.slowly! for the first 150 pages, but now it’s getting good and I’m enjoying reading it more.

WriteMy goal was two parts–writing twice in my journal, and write one post for the blog besides the goals post and the book review post.   I wrote two times in my journal and wrote one additional posts to be scheduled over the next few weeks.

Care for Myself

Exercise.  My goal was to exercise 20 minutes this week, and I exercised 30 minutes, doing three short 10 minute yoga sessions.  The weather was crazy this week; one day, at 6 a.m. it was 90 degrees and the wind was blowing at 35 mph, so I decided yoga was the best choice this week.

Eat only when I’m hungry. This is a struggle, struggle, struggle.

Create a Manageable Schedule for Myself

I have decided that everyone in our family needs a schedule, especially since most kiddos on the spectrum do better with a routine.  I know I’ll have to be flexible for a few weeks, but once we find out about ABA, I’ll be able to make a more concrete schedule.  I think in the next 4 to 6 weeks, I’ll have a better idea what our schedule will look like.  The latter half of July and the beginning of August look to be a time of transition.

Clean Up for 5 Minutes After Kids Are in Bed

I’m reducing this to just 5 minutes a night.  This didn’t happen this week.

Re-establish My Prayer Routine – ACCOMPLISHED!

I have been doing great with this.  I’m marking it as accomplished because I’ve successfully done it the past few weeks, and it’s now become habit for me.

How are you doing on your goals?  I’d love it if you’d share in the comments!

Goals for 2018: Week 26 of 52

This week, I tried to take care of myself.  I exercised 6x this week.  (Can you believe it?!)  I decided writing in my journal at night is just not working because I’m way too tired by the time I have time to write, so it just doesn’t get done.  Instead, I started writing in my journal when I wake up in the morning.  Guess what?  With that simple switch, I was able to write in my journal three times this week!

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Make Time to Relax

Read a book a week.   I currently have four books that I’m reading–A Casualty of War, Smart but Scattered, No Longer Little, and The Librarian of Auschwitz.  (Am I the only one who is reading several books at a time, or do you do it, too?)  The Librarian of Auschwitz is getting a little too much for me as far as graphic details go, so I had to step away and spend more time reading A Casualty of War.

WriteMy goal was two parts–writing twice in my journal, and write one post for the blog besides the goals post and the book review post.   I wrote three times in my journal and wrote one additional posts to be scheduled over the next few weeks.

Care for Myself

Exercise.  My goal was to exercise 20 minutes this week, and I exercised 77 minutes–60 minutes of walking and 17 minutes of yoga.

Eat only when I’m hungry. This is a struggle, struggle, struggle.

Create a Manageable Schedule for Myself

I have decided that everyone in our family needs a schedule, especially since most kiddos on the spectrum do better with a routine.  I know I’ll have to be flexible for a few weeks, but once we find out about ABA, I’ll be able to make a more concrete schedule.  I finally heard that insurance approved ABA for one of my kiddos.  I’m hoping we can get in this week for an initial assessment, but more likely it will be next week or the week after.  I’m impatient, but I can see that therapy will likely begin in August, so I’m feeling better.  I’m so ready for this child to start therapy, and I really, really hope we see improvements.

Clean Up for 5 Minutes After Kids Are in Bed

I’m reducing this to just 5 minutes a night.  This didn’t happen this week.

Re-establish My Prayer Routine – ACCOMPLISHED!

I have been doing great with this.  I’m marking it as accomplished because I’ve successfully done it the past few weeks, and it’s now become habit for me.

How are you doing on your goals?  I’d love it if you’d share in the comments!

Goals for 2018: Week 25 of 52

I’m part of a group on Facebook for parents of kids with autism.  One woman asked other parents what they did to relax and get rid of stress.  She said that she smoked.  I eat.  Many people had healthier (ahem) ways to relieve stress.  Then one woman came on and said how important it is to relieve stress; she survived cancer and directly attributed getting sick to the constant stress of handling her child with autism.  She then linked to a scientific study that showed parents of children with autism are 40% more likely to get cancer.

Hello!

That was a wake up call for me and helped motivate me to meet some of my weekly goals.

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Make Time to Relax

Read a book a week.   I currently have four books that I’m reading–A Casualty of War, Smart but Scattered, No Longer Little, and The Librarian of Auschwitz.  (Am I the only one who is reading several books at a time, or do you do it, too?)  I started the latter book because I only have it for 10 more days from the library and there are people waiting for it, so I won’t be able to renew it.

Write.  My goal was two parts–writing twice in my journal, and write one post for the blog besides the goals post and the book review post.    I did pretty good with this one.  I wrote once in my journal and wrote two additional posts to be scheduled over the next few weeks.

Care for Myself

Exercise.  My goal was to exercise 20 minutes this week, and I exercised 48 minutes.  Yay!

Eat only when I’m hungry. I have a plan for this, which I will share with you later in the week.

Create a Manageable Schedule for Myself

I have decided that everyone in our family needs a schedule, especially since most kiddos on the spectrum do better with a routine.  I know I’ll have to be flexible for a few weeks, but once we find out about ABA, I’ll be able to make a more concrete schedule.  I’m hoping I hear about the ABA therapy this week!

Clean Up for 5 Minutes After Kids Are in Bed

I’m reducing this to just 5 minutes a night.  I didn’t do 5 minutes a night, but one day this week, I spent 40 minutes cleaning off my kitchen island and deep freezer and deep cleaning the living room.

Re-establish My Prayer Routine – ACCOMPLISHED!

I have been doing great with this.  I’m marking it as accomplished because I’ve successfully done it the past few weeks, and it’s now become habit for me.

How are you doing on your goals?  I’d love it if you’d share in the comments!

Goals for 2018: Week 24 of 52

This was a crazy week.  PB & J Girl got a cold, and by Sunday afternoon, she was vomiting.  Yes, I may have the only child in the world who starts a cold with vomiting.  Then, she can’t keep any fluids down, which makes her sicker.  She went over 30 hours vomiting and not keeping down fluids.  We have an anti-nausea pill we give her, but this time it didn’t work, so we had to take her to the emergency room for IV fluids and IV medication.  We went at 11 p.m. and got back home at 5 a.m.  The crazy thing is that the exact same thing happened to her 14 months ago, and we had to take her to the ER then, too.  Just one of those kid quirks.

We also got rain for the first time since February, so the kids (and the adults) were excited.  I’ve never been so happy to have a rainy day!

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Make Time to Relax

Read a book a week.   I didn’t finish The 5 Love Languages before it was due, and there were 18 people waiting for it, so back to the library it went.  Now, I’m reading A Casualty of War.

 

Write.  My goal was two parts–writing twice in my journal, and write one post for the blog besides the goals post and the book review post.    I did pretty good with this one.  I wrote once in my journal and wrote two additional posts to be scheduled over the next few weeks.

Care for Myself

Exercise.  My goal was to exercise 20 minutes this week, and I was able to do that.  Yay!

Eat only when I’m hungry. I’m the world’s biggest stress eater, so I often eat not when I’m hungry, but when I feel stress, which happens many times a day lately.  Based on Geneen Roth’s teachings, I’m going to eat only when hungry.

This goal was difficult.  I think it’s too big right now, so for this week, I’m going to keep a journal to write down what I eat, how hungry I am when I’m eating, and what emotion I’m feeling.  You have to know where you are before you can make any improvements.

Create a Manageable Schedule for Myself

I have decided that everyone in our family needs a schedule, especially since most kiddos on the spectrum do better with a routine.  I know I’ll have to be flexible for a few weeks, but once we find out about ABA, I’ll be able to make a more concrete schedule.

Clean Up for 5 Minutes After Kids Are in Bed

I’m reducing this to just 5 minutes a night.  I didn’t do 5 minutes a night, but Sunday afternoon, I cleaned my room for 30 minutes, getting rid of some clutter and a box of the kids’ outgrown clothes to donate.  (They had been sitting in a corner of my room.)

Re-establish My Prayer Routine – ACCOMPLISHED!

I have been doing great with this.  I’m marking it as accomplished because I’ve successfully done it the past few weeks, and it’s now become habit for me.

How are you doing on your goals?  I’d love it if you’d share in the comments!