Change can be scary. What if I make a change, and it’s the wrong decision? I’m always a bit reluctant to change, but I find especially with kids with special needs, I need to be willing to change to do what is best for them.
Probably the biggest place this comes into play is with my children’s therapy. What led to our first child’s diagnosis with autism was crazy meltdowns that could last for hours and were caused by the slightest infraction, whether perceived or actual. It was when I was calling psychologists to see about scheduling appointments that one of them mentioned that what this child was experiencing sounded like autism. WHAT?! I never thought my child had autism. But then I looked up the symptoms for Asperger’s, and our child met almost every, single, manifestation.
We sought therapy for this child, but the first therapist was not effective, nor was the second. Then, we settled on the third therapist, who is a very nice person and insisted that without intense therapy–4x a week–this child would not get better. We sent this child to therapy for 1.5 years, and things did not get better. I had to accept that this route was not working, and it was time for a change.
Then, this child started ABA therapy, and while that has helped some, it’s not the cure-all, end-all, I had hoped. I’m not sure where we’ll go from here.
My special needs kiddos have required much change with education. When my first child to be diagnosed with dyslexia was little, we probably spent two to three years learning to read. I would try a reading curriculum for four to six months, see it wasn’t meeting this child’s needs, and move on to the next one. We probably tried five learning to read programs over two to three years. This child did learn to read, but not smoothly, and not without difficulty. Then we found Barton. Now I think we’ll stay with this program throughout because it’s specific for students with dyslexia.
Likewise, after years of homeschooling, we’ve decided to send Bookworm to school. Bookworm (9th grade) is a very social kid and loves to be around others. He lost his motivation for homeschool about two years ago. I blamed it on puberty, but even after we enrolled him in an online school this year, he just wasn’t flourishing as I had hoped he would.
Time for a change, and now.
I called one small, charter school in our area, had an interview, and he began school, all within 10 days. So far he is liking it, and I feel that for now, this was the right decision for him.
Change can be difficult, especially when we are making changes for our kiddos. I’ve found with three special needs kids, change can be essential to get them the help that they need. Unfortunately, change may need to happen several times before your child, hopefully, begins to flourish.
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